Everything at this point in the process is counter intuitive.
Your mind is tricking you. You have to stop it. Control your thoughts, not the other way around.
If you are anxious, you are thinking about the future. If you are depressed, you are thinking about the past. Get into the moment. Right now is all you have. Enjoy every moment. Can't change the past. The future is not here yet, so set goals and work toward the goals.