Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (3)

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I think I can do the dating, have sex, enjoy her company and have no expectations better than she can. This is where I didn’t want to misrepresent myself or come across as careless. For some living in the moment could be seen that way. That could sound conflicting, living in the moment with no expectations to guard our feelings vs believing what a foundation should look like for a possible MR 2.0, built on some honesty in the form of admission or truth of what happened. Yeah it all sounds confusing to me too.

Hey Adam,

Good to see things moving in a positive direction I hope. I pulled this quote because it is a possible MR 2.0. If things are working out no one wants to go back to the old MR. The key is the expectations. It wasn't until I knew that I could live without W or WW or whatever that I was able to drop the rope. I was scared, angry, resentful and once that all passed I made the change that ultimately made her the pursuer.

It wasn't until then that she offered up full disclosure, a change in everything that brought back a more recognizable person than the alien form I had seen for the last year. I am comfortable putting my toe back in the water...not taking a total header just in case it is shallow. She will need to continue with her transparency, you shouldn't have to ask and it should be without hesitation and when you feel the need, not all the time....otherwise it will drive you crazy! Sex? absolutely if she is initiating, I find she will initiate more because because I am not...I am just continuing to make myself better for me and that is probably the most attractive thing that gets noticed.

But still be aware, no expectations...you will know if something is not right. My wife now offers up everything...100%, even if she is just going to the store. She wants my trust and knows this is the only way.