She did look into a relationship fixing book recommended by her IC (didn't tell me, but I happened to see while she was showing me something on the computer). She's cuddling with me, ring is still on, and she's saying ILY, but she's also a liar. I worked in a question about something kinda casual that I knew as a test and she didn't skip a beat to deceive me. She's got IC today. I'm sure when she gets home there will be more garbage to sift through.
Right now I'm starting to think putting up with this at all is just a lack of self respect and maybe I should just want her gone. I can do better than this. I took vows, but she's at the line of breaking hers if it hasn't been crossed already.
oops, always within your power to decide to cut bait and run. However, I personally feel you should give it some time to work itself. General guidance is at LEAST a year. But it shouldn't be a year of sitting and waiting. GAL. 180s. Detachment. They all have a goal: self improvement, discovery, and awareness. So that your next relationship, whether that is with your W or someone else, has a chance of being more successful.
Do the work. Earn your way out of your marriage. Otherwise you will carry baggage and the same problems into your next R.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
