While I may push a little more than others, my advice is in no way 2x4’s. You don’t need 2X4’s . Maybe just some different perspectives and relatable stories to help you.
I just think getting over the fear ( and I do believe in my heart of hearts it is a fear) at a smaller event will give you less anxiety, or perhaps none. For the bigger events you’ll really want to be a part of. I speak what I speak because I do get it. My ex’s wife is the OW.
I was very close to my ex sil. I even lived with her for a while. She spoke and spoke of her wedding and decided not to invite me. I had to find out on my own, she didn’t even come to me. I was devastated. So hurt. She didn’t want any “problems” on her wedding day, which I would never cause. FF years later and all of us attend her annual Super Bowl party together.
I almost also didn’t let my daughter go to the ex’s and OW’s wedding. Thanks to this board I 2 days before, I said OK. Thank god I did, because how would I be able to explain she wasn’t at their wedding and why?
Tad, your decision is your decision, and I support either way. But if I didn’t help you look at this from a different perspective, I would feel I didn’t do right by you, especially knowing my own experiences there is no judgement either way.
I am forever thankful to those on this board who gave me perspectives that scared the poop out of me.
My 11 year old came to me and thanked me. She told me she is so happy that her parents get along . She knows most divorced parents can’t even look at each other and it has made her so happy.
The way our coparenting turned out offer D isn’t the usual story. Very rare. And we didn’t have a “mutual” divorce. Him and his wife betrayed me worse than I could have ever imagined being betrayed . I wanted to DIE. And I guess one day I woke up and decided no way Jose. I’m taking back my life.
Again, my what I say is out of experience. Not to hand you 2x4’s. You don’t need that and you don’t deserve that. And I support you in your choices. Not that my support matters, but I do really get it. I wouldn’t say what I do if I didn’t see benefit in it for YOU
