To ALL of us on this forum, we share our stories, we look for support and validation. We are sometime quick at giving advise without knowing the whole story of the poster. I do not like 2x4s. They can do harm and this is not what this forum is for. Give your opinion but do not push anyone to do what YOU think is the right thing. The poster shoukd ALWAYS do what is right for him or her. SUPPORT is what it' s all about. We learn alot here. We are giving tools to help us navigate through this. We go forward and we stumble at time. It is all part of life.
Tad, you do not have to decide anything at this very moment. In the morning of the event, you will know what is right for you to do. Then and only then should you make the decision.
Please, be good to yourself. Many people love you and will still love you no matter what you decide.
