Tad- You don't have to. I know how fragile you were in your divorce and how hard it has been for you to get this far. If you think you can't handle it, you don't have to.
Look, my ex's new wife is NOT an OW, and I don't remotely want my ex back or care about her, but it's still really difficult to be in the same room as my ex since he has treated our kids badly since the divorce in various ways. If it weren't for that I'd probably be fine with them, honestly. One of my son's is graduating in a couple of weeks and I think he is wrestling with feeling uncomfortable with having all of us (my ex and his wife, me and my other son and my mom ) all together at lunch afterwards. I don't want to cause my son any discomfort and told him we could invent an excuse why we have to return home after and he can just have lunch with his dad. I know he loves me and don't want him to feel like he has to be stressed out between us all. The silent daggers my mom would shoot at my ex would probably be too much anyway hahaha.
