I don't bring her or make her coffee anymore (No point the T.Y.'s stopped.) I don't do her dishes or clean up her messes (Now Shes taking her own initiatives.) I try not to argue. I ignore all texts including random S1 picks used as bait for reactions, unless directly related to S1, finances, or split custody. I even gave her a screw driver to fix and replace her own toilet seat. I don't fix anything if it breaks if its non essential. (She can call all the repairmen for that now and pay through the nose like her parents always did, since she wanted to always do that in the first place.) I make sure to get at least half of my value of what I'm paying for as a "roommate" so I make sure to enjoy more TV now instead of letting her hog it all. I do my own separate grocery shopping. I let her carry in her own groceries. We schedule and split when garbage and recycling goes out. We try to divide housework evenly now, since IHS instead of blaming each other. I don't let her start arguments, or take digs. I address the problem behavior (She's a behaviorist) and walk away. Once on a while we will offer or share food, but not often. She is soley responsible for selling the house and leaving the marriage.
This is not to be punitive. You will not gain any brownie points by doing this. But you will eventually get some respect, and she will eventually learn to appreciate what you did. They wanted their indepndence and freedom. Have at it. I like to equate their mindset to that Janet Jackson song. What Have You Done For Me Lately. They are not focused on you, or thinking about you. They are focused on their goals/independence/healing/affairs/limerace/ whatever....So you focus on you and rebuild you. Be fair with them though. Help where it pertains to your children.
Keep all convos and texts short and to the point, less words is more mystery. Women intuitively understand that time is important because of biology. So if you are no longer important to them. You value and respect your time. This can be applied in all GAL scenearios, personal telationships, etc.
