Honestly, Rose is right. Developing empathy means not writing posts where you focus on and criticize your wife's choices. Empathy means you support her choices because you recognize the pain she's in. You don't have agree with them. It's also not something, as you say, you do once in a while. Empathy is a total commitment to consideration of someone else's feelings. Until you you recognize what she must be dealing with you won't be able to forgive the pain she's causing you - and move on.
