WAW - possibly WW

[SoTorn]

That seems like an excuse Regret. Nothing is impossible. You don't have any court order saying you can't have your kid half the time. You are letting her control when you see your own kid. You have to understand that if this goes to divorce, she can say "well so and so hardly saw our child" and that would negatively affect your custody in court.

The more you see your child, the more you are involved, the more you do, the more effort you make, the better you look in front of a judge. You need to show your child, your WW and a judge that you would move mountains to make sure that you spend at minimum 50% of the time with them. It doesnt matter how far you are, how much gas costs, how much you think the court is biased.

The only thing stopping you from 50/50 right now is your fear that you are in some sort of compromised situation that inhibits your ability to do so. Stop that right now. Take charge, push for that 50/50. Be assertive and tell her that you are going to see him 50% of the time. If she doesnt play ball then you need to get a lawyer involved. If you end up in custody court they will ask every single time you saw your kid and how much time you spent with them when you were separated and take that into consideration when they decide how much time you get in the custody agreement. Believe me.