One thing I have realized in this group and perhaps it is obvious to others here is as Job has stated, we all tend to advise through the lens of our own personal experiences. I believe that most everyone here is intending to help others and I hope to do the same. Sometimes that help is not easily excepted and that's to be expected. If the prudent options were so obvious to us while stuck in the thick of it, we wouldn't need the group. Right?
Some people need to create a distance from their spouse. I get that. Hopefully, it can be achieved while still in the home, for reasons discussed elsewhere in these pages. Sometimes that is not possible. Only we can know and often only after we try. If you are in danger, then don't wait. Many times leaving without the full intent of divorce is simply a Contol Tactic. I think it is important to know why one decides to leave the home.
Much of the pain and distress that we experience while in this, is Growing Pains. As we realize where the MR got off track and how we contributed to it, hopefully, we learn and correct that behavior. Missing out on this opportunity would be unfortunate and a real shame. Not a lot of fun, but a tremendous opportunity. IMO Soak it in regardless of why the final outcome may be. You'll be a better person because of it.
Peace and Love.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
