All very true Rose... All very true... I honestly do, and try to look at her situation with empathy at least once a week, to remind myself. Its what keeps me humbled. I am honestly working on my emotional well being through counciling and coaching, and I am learning so much and getting better at my responding rather than reacting. I have had a list of 180's since Jan and have been working to make them habit. As far as the focus on my side of the street, well that goes back and forth with me weekly. But I am becoming more detached by the week, and having more clairvoyance after 7 months of this. I guess I look at both sides quite frequently to replay or find any dynamics I can work on or be aware of for myself in the future. But your analysis is spot on (Of her perception anyway.) Mine is much different. I add a lot of these up as perceived judgements and not facts.
"Your wife is saying she doesn’t want to live with a man who is moody, very critical, leaves all the parenting to her (or did until BD), and relies on her working an emotionally draining job to provide financial stability and health insurance for the family."
These are all true in my honest judgement, except the parenting part, and I do have my own insurance. Hers is better however. At least it will be until she quits this year.
