Well I tried doing more than talking about sex before talking both times I've raised the subject... But yes, I see what you mean, dh's LL is acts of service and then maybe gifts (I'm not 100% sure) but I know he likes to feel appreciated and for me to pay him attention and I deliberately didn't do that because I was so angry at him being angry at me. I did actually do a lot for him because he works such crazy hours, but I really did it dragging my metaphorical feet, and he always had to ask. So I've started offering before he asks. And also asking him to join in things with me, like this walk this weekend which was prompted by me. Must keep my expectations low, which is difficult when he was looking at me quite affectionately at lunchtime. Then again, he looked at me affectionately the night before he DBed, so I am very, very dubious of that look after that!
Definitely going to avoid any R talks this weekend. I took advantage of us being away by texting MIL and telling her she could visit the kids if she wanted, ds1 can coordinate via text because I won't get involved beyond that. He gets his birthday money and a meal and I don't have to see her, win win.
