For me personally I am also doing the exercise thing. Being good to my body; physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. I try to spend as much time reading things, quiet time (either in prayer, journaling or walks outdoors) as I do working out. Both have amazing effects on sadness, depression, processing.
At the end of the day, you've got you (and your kids). I'm only saying this because I have glimpses of it which I never did before: Your life isn't over no matter what happens going forward. This time you've got is an incredible opportunity to do some self-inventory, pick yourself up and start setting some short term and long term goals for yourself.
Maybe its a promotion, maybe a max weight lifted, maybe a new hobby, but above all confidence that you're going to be ok and you WILL figure it out.
Grieving is going to happen. I am finally getting to the place that I realize my old marriage is over. There were things I did to get it here and my wife did as well. This is a lot to swallow but it's the reality.
Keep breathing, keep thinking of ways to improve yourself - and what MIGHT be a byproduct is your wife will notice, she will remember the confident, fun, positive you that she fell in love with and MIGHT get her feelings back. But there is not a guarantee of that.
Great thing is you have a 100% guarantee of seeing fruit from investing in yourself.
H46 W38 M12 T15 D8,S7,S5
11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began 7/12/18 Confessed A 10/1/19 EA still happening with 2 4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"
