I have literally no idea. Honestly. I don't get this kind of treatment from anyone else in my life.
Yes you do know.
You wouldn't put up with it.
You put up with this now because you have built a story/scenario around it that makes you accept it - but you know it isn't right.
Forget advise from other people - look at yourself.
You say -
Originally Posted by AlisonUK
I'm not there yet and whether I should be there or not is another matter - the fact is, I am just not
You are were ever you want to be. That statement is a get out clause, an excuse to stay in that middle ground where you arent doing much about it - but thinking about it enough to justify it to yourself.
People hate doing things they dont want to do.. i.e.. a run first thing in the morning sounds good on paper.. but when that alarm goes off at 5am its a different story. Similar story here - you know you would not put up with this from anyone else - so dont.
The reason you are is because your trying to make a relationship work rather than doing what is best for you and your self worth. Why would anyone put a relationship before their own self worth? because they are afraid.
You dont need this board - you need you. And you need to start acting on what you know is right rather than researching.
You come first.. and if a relationship follows then fantastic. If not.. the strength you gain from having some self respect and looking the pain and loneliness in the face is a strength that NOBODY else can replicate. The funny part is that when you do take that jump mentally... after a couple of months you wonder why you put up with all that sh*t in the first place
