Just wait for the proverbial poo to hit the fan when she realizing you're not willing to play her game. They don't like it when you don't follow their rules. Just focus on what's best for you and your kids. If she wants to straighten up and join you on the journey, she will. Until then she's no concern of yours. Just do what's right and be the type of person only a fool would leave. Even if you decide you don't want to be with her, you can't go wrong living your life that way...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019