Attracting the WW back ?

[gzabetas]

Thanks R2C, thats exactly what I want to be. The rock. Unphased by all madness.
And I agree, she may notice how unhappy she is w/o me. I hope she does. I was her emotional support for years to the point where it drained me. I need this time for me too. Lets see how she does on her own with the demons inside her having no one to respond around her.

IHCLACS I know what you mean about our era of disposable relationships.
My therapist and her father were all for the marriage. She fired them too. So in the end the stronger ego wins.
But in a way its a losing bet for them.

I would have never thought of the lowest of lows that my spouse entered to "survive" / escape.:

Rewriting our history. Monstrifying me. etc (the script we all are familiar with)
Affairs with OM in kinky positions at the gym that I paid for and drove her in my car to after making her scrambled eggs and juice.
Keeping them secret for a year.
Lying about everything to me.
Verbally abusing me for a year.
Badmouthing me to everyone, behind my back.

And I kid you not. I am the nicest guy you can meet. I was never the controlling type, or angry etc
I am not going to be so nice anymore (to quote Richard Dreyfus in Stakeout)