A Real Mess

[si13]

All kinds of funny dynamics while there is the injection of DBs. To actually do it for myself helps me to look at this from the outside.

I've got a situation I'd love to hear y'alls feedback on.

While my wife and I were going to CC, my mom was paying for the sessions. Being a mom, of course, she wants to help us try and piece this thing back together. But she's got her own feelings about what's happened since my wake up call for being abusive. My W had 2 As and well, not the most constructive method or response to EmAb.

Last week our CC put a stop to the sessions since my W asked for a D.

My W has asked now twice if my mom would continue to pay for her sessions (which I know the answer is no) and we pay for her IC 2x a week.

Is this controlling? My mom is still paying for my IC (with the CC and it's $170 per session).

Interestingly enough, my W has been applying for full time work like crazy, as that was her key to the divorce, when she gets her job and can support herself. She has been getting turned down like crazy as well. I have validated and tried to be very supportive.

This morning's goodbye took a very different tone. I could tell she's a little frustrated and barely even looked at me when I lightheartedly said goodbye. I could tell with an entire day off ahead of her, she's pretty depressed with our situation. But I held my ground. Even had the opportunity to look at her phone. Didn't even give it a second thought. I want to heal for me, DB for me.