I have literally no idea. Honestly. I don't get this kind of treatment from anyone else in my life. It just doesn't happen. If you have a suggestion, I'd love to hear it.
I am following the suggestions for validating from the sticky and have given examples earlier in my thread. Yail suggested that I was not actually validating, but enabling emotional abuse. My question is about how to tell the difference, and feedback on how to respond to abuse, where a boundary is appropriate and not validation. I tried to set a boundary in response to his sarcasm last night and I've also outlined that earlier in this thread.
I suspect if I was detached more, I'd not care about his silly opinions about my parenting decisions or my personality or our past. I'd just shrug and laugh it off. I'm not there yet and whether I should be there or not is another matter - the fact is, I am just not. I can work on my behaviour even if my feelings don't follow - so I am asking for suggestions about actions I can take in these situations.
