Each person is different, therefore, their responses will be different in their situations. Whether this man is a true alpha or not, he has chosen a path that may be different than yours or mine. This forum is about attempting to save your marriage, but more importantly learning to use the DB tools and techniques that are offered here. I respect the fact that RR17 is attempting to work on the issues at hand. Let's offer this poster our support even though we may disagree w/the way he is handling things. Each and every poster comes here to learn how to deal w/what has happened to their spouses, relationships and, of course, themselves.
I have been here for quite some time and this forum provided me w/the tools to move forward and to move on. Sure people posted telling me to move on, kick the spouse to the curb, but I, and only I had to make that decision because no one was walking in my shoes and only knew a small part of my life, which I shared here. I am here now to pay it forward and offer assistance wherever I can.
Only the poster will know when he/she is ready to move on. We are sitting on the outside looking in. We may see things that we can relate to because of our situations, but each and every poster has to walk the path and only then, can he/she determine what is best for them. Let's encourage our posters to walk the path, learn about themselves as they face the struggles and one day, he/she will see the light...but until then let's allow them the time and space to figure things out for themselves.
Remember...we aren't walking in his shoes.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
