Thanks Benito, I understand what you are saying and I am glad that it worked out for you. I am glad you and your wife are on better terms and finding your way back together!
My question is specifically about validating. How I can validate, according to DB advice, and how I can have a boundary where emotional abuse is concerned. I am still thinking about that and I think I am doing a little bit better. I don't initiate contact, but I want to know how best to respond to contact from H.
So for example - yes, I can treat him like a work colleague. But if a work colleague was sarcastic or belittling towards me, what would I do? I don't know, because I can't genuinely say it has happened. Would I validate that or just leave the room? I'd probably report it to HR but I guess that isn't applicable here!
What would you say or do if someone was treating or speaking to your daughter in the same way he does to you?
