Yeah - it really is. I know in the past I would have tried to either convince him that he was in the wrong, or started weeping and wanting him to apologise and take it back. It was different - I was just calm and said it wasn't acceptable if he was going to be in the house, and left it at that. I don't want to make excuses for him - I can understand that he feels me giving the Eldest responsibilities is a bit of a trigger point for him (he always felt I was far too lax - and I think he had a point) but I'm not interested in arguing about it any more. I am making changes and giving him information about the kids and he can have whatever opinions and feelings he likes, but his conversation with me must be respectful if I am going to participate in it. What was different was me saying it was unacceptable then just letting it lie as well. In the past I might have harped on about it and tried to extract some kind of apology from him. I didn't do that - I just got on with getting ready, went out, and was cordial when I got back. I can see he was very wary about that.
