Something is different..... Trying not to read into it, but something is definitely off.
H is still distant and quiet for the most part. Distracted. He is talking to me with normal day to day discussions one moment, and cold the next. Strange little things. He was even irritated and short with the dog last night. He definitely wanted to be alone.
Yesterday H texted me to tell me about an issue with his new tires. He ended the long text with an FYI. I replied with a "sorry about that, that stinks." He could have easily told me about it when I got home, just temp checking? Or he just needed to vent....
I called home on my way to the gym expecting my S to answer, but H did (he's never home at this time). He was cold at first, but then went on to explain his tire dilemma. He asked if I was going to the gym, then said have fun and hung up. When I got home he had cleaned the house, made dinner, and skipped the gym. He NEVER skips the gym. He stayed downstairs in his "room" all night power watching a series. He came up a few times throughout the night- sometimes chatty, sometimes cold.
He was on the couch almost cuddling the dog when I got up this morning. So, either he felt bad about last night, or he is thinking about how hard it will be to leave the dog. As silly as it sounds I have noticed in the past few weeks he will make comments about the dog and how the dog doesn't love him as much as he used to, he only hangs around him when he has food, etc. H loves this dog. He is our baby. I think he is trying to detach from him so it won't hurt when he leaves.
He left the door open to the bathroom as he got ready this morning - something that used to be routine, but not for the last few months. He left for work with a quick goodbye, but had to come back because he forgot his phone. That never happens! How will he contact OW without it?!
Normally I would press and ask him what was wrong, or respond in the same cold manner. But, I will continue to 180 and GAL. Obviously, still working on the detaching thing.... This is so hard.
