You have said it before. I feel i have been Crystal clear.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Well yeah ultimately if your needs are not being met you need to be able to walk away. My point is if you need transparency to protect yourself tell her. If you need sex in a relationship tell her. If she can't meet you needs then you have no choice but to walkway.
Instead you don't require transparency and sex and then you become passive aggressive and pissed off when your needs aren't met.
It's not like your requests are outlandish. When someone cheats transparency should be a must. In a marriage sex should be a must. Your problem is your being driven by fear and that is never a good way to live your life.
Look man I can tell you from experience I lived in limbo for a year and a half and it was soul sucking. Being divorced is 100 times better then living in limbo.
LH, no my needs are not being met and there are never just two options.
Ultimately, I may very well walk away. I have been divorced before, I know what to expect. Once I'm gone I will never look back. I know, I've seen me do it.
As I said, I have a plan and intend to work said plan. Waiting and watching is part of the plan. This is not driven by fear.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
One thing that I have explored during this time, is that I don't NEED to be in any relationship.
It is easy to be weak and quit. I'm not interested in what is easy.
Last edited by RR17; 04/29/1911:42 AM.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
I would argue that after two years of working on yourself and being extremely patient the strong thing to do would be to let her know that this arrangement isn’t working for you and what you need from her to continue this relationship.
Walking away from unacceptable terms is what alphas do.
Alpha males come and go as they please. They spend time with the people that they choose to spend time with. They are decisive and purpose driven.
They don't quit until they decide it is time to quit. And they definitely don't run away.
But thanks LH19
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
Look man you can try to spin it all you want but a true alpha walks away from from any relationship that is not working for him after lovely communicating his needs. It's not quitting when you give someone a choice.
You like quotes: the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Says the guy that quotes Will Smith and didn't save his marriage.
LH, I'm glad you're happy now. I'll run my own race. You do yours.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
