Thanks mtb. I have done the hard reflecting on myself and changed some of my short comings....still working on a few but progress is progress.....over the last yr. She wants even more time which she hasnt even begun to do (and makes excuses why she cant now) to make those reflections. I told her you had almost a year (since her exit affair only lasted 2 months), you should have done it then instead of going out and "doing me and having fun"...we all know what that means.
