The aftermath - OrangeK

[mtb1981]

I get what you're saying about the thoughts popping into your head, and I wish I had a foolproof method to prevent it. It's almost a Catch 22. Thinking about stopping a thought only makes you think more about it. I just have to actively identify it's happening and just think about something else. It's hard. Kinda reminds me of the scene in Ghostbusters at the end when they're trying to think of nothing, and Ray thinks of the Stay-Puft marshmallow man. In the same way, if you spend too much time telling yourself to not think about her, guess what you'll be thinking about. Probably her. Next time a thought involving her comes up. Just stop whatever you're doing and tell yourself, "Not today", and try to focus on what you're doing at that moment. It gets better with time. Maybe think about what you want to do later that night/weekend, what you're gonna make for dinner, seeing how many state capitals you can remember, etc. Whatever it is doesn't really matter. Just don't fuel the thoughts you don't want by thinking about them too long...