I haven't totally caught up on your sitch, but you definitely seem to be in a much better place than you were when I last read your sitch months ago. Keep up the good work. From the bit I've read, it seems like she's trying to manipulate you and keep you attached. Not replying to her messages unless absolutely necessary is gold. I wish more people had the ability to do that. It was a turning point for me...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019