If this allowed freedom is asked for in a conversation, why do y'all suggest as the response?

For example: (if she asks about going out) I'm going out tonight. My response would be "enjoy yourself"

HOWEVER, what if she asks WHY are you ok with this (even hinting that I never was before)

H46
W38
M12
T15
D8,S7,S5

11/12/17 "I don't want to be married like this" A began
7/12/18 Confessed A
10/1/19 EA still happening with 2
4/23/19 "I want a D, but I want to stay until I find a job"