Moving forward with the D is completely up to you. It is in your power to do so. However, do you want a D? If not, why would you push it forward if you don't want it? If she wants it, she'll push it forward. If you are doing it because you think it will give you some time of relief from pain, I think you are sorely mistaken. Instead of being in limbo and miserable, you'll be D'd and miserable.
I tell LBSs all the time, earn your way out of your marriage. Be able to look back in 10-15-20 years from now, look your kids in the eyes, and tell them honestly and with integrity that you did everything in your power to save your MR. Trust me, that will be a better story than "I gave up."
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
