Not Sure Where This Is Going

[Niall11]

Question for you: is this the attitude of a person that is trying or NOT trying to control another person?

Fair enough question, but I'm not trying to control her. I'm trying to establish some reasonable balance between her (apparently insatiable) desire to go out with her new friend/s and my desire to GAL myself.

I had plans, involving at a minimum a 40-minute round trip into town and a 3-hour movie. I am trying a Saturday night out with a friend and establish some boundaries. I don't see how it's appropriate to drop my plans for the evening and race home so that W could get together with her new BFF 5 times in 4 days instead of 4 times.

I'm a pretty reasonable and accommodating person but, that very day, she was supposed to take D2 to the party and I gave her the chance to go without having to worry about D2, who doesn't do well in large groups of strange people. I don't mind because I like spending time with my D2 and we had a fun day. Getting a nap and a long trip to the park was better for D2 than being an afterthought at some adult's birthday party.

I am hardly trying to block W from going out as a general matter. She's gone out with her new friends like 10 times in the past 14 days. I see no need, though, to alter my plans so she can eat even more cake.