Attracting the WW back ?

[gzabetas]

Well divorce papers were signed last week.
Today I helped her box some of her small stuff and did some drive-runs to her new place. The movers are coming tomorrow for her heavy stuff.

Somethings I noticed. Her "new" place is a much older house, and I think she sees the difference between my place which was bright with insulation etc. And I think the OM is inferior too. From my research he is in a steady relationship with his GF and not committed to mine. A few days ago my W even said "The next man may not even measure up to you" she said. Meaning that my status (height, masters degrees, dual citizen, looks) was a positive.

So looking at the 2 houses I can kinda see that in a logical way we LBS are the clear winner, and the W knowingly drops her standards to the new OM and house and life.
Only to get away from her emotional pain. Pain that we didnt create.("you didnt break her, you cant fix her" thanks forum members for that)

God, for the last 2 years I funded her
- spanish lessons, tango lessons, english tutor, driving lessons (she failed all)
- psychologist sessions, dermatologist, endocrinologist, gynecologist
- gym membership, new phones
- new wardrobe and shoes

And still she was unhappy. Stuff that I sacrificed from me to have to offer her.
I still wear my 1990s Sears, Gap, USA clothes that I brought here to Greece (revamping my wardrobe these days)
with my own abandoned dental work etc to provide for my wife and kid as they were priorities.

And still she was unhappy ("Happiness comes from inside" DVBusting forums also)

Thank God, due alot to this forum and book here, that I was able to Detach and act as if during this ordeal.

I dont know, her moving into the older house gave me such a strong metaphor for her moving into an inferior life.
Maybe that is my POV, but I think anyone would see it.

She probably thinks that in that place, there are no demons of doubt and despair in her head.

All the negative is associated of course with everything we represent.