Thanks, Steve. 10-4. I've been ramping down, so I guess I need to keep ramping.
I admit I still love her so it is hard. I am getting closer every day, but unfortunately I tend towards anxiety and I have an incredibly active, detail oriented mind (this has served me incredibly well career-wise, but not so great for this situation).
Loving her means to love her on her terms. She asked for time and space. Give it to her because you love her. If you truly love someone you want them to be happy, no matter what that means. This was a truth that helped me so much in my sitch.
Loving is not trying to control. Not trying to keep her there against her will. Is not trying to manipulate her through DBing or anything else. Loving her is to give her all of the time and space she needs to figure this out, no matter what the outcome.
My guess oops, if you were completely honest with yourself, is that your actions are being motivated by fear. Fear of D. Fear of losing her. Fear of being alone. Not by love.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
