Her brother has a mental illness that makes him angry and he'll need care for the rest of his life. He tried to kill her. It broke her parents. They both phoned it in basically - dad and the brother were fighting constantly, mom quit and basically rotted. They quit working. Lived a lower class life with a messy, trashed house - basically stereotypical trailer park life. She withdrew to her room, read books, kept to herself. Shes introverted, socially anxious, etc.
When we got together, she was in REALLY bad shape and I had direction and confidence. I wasn't all that into it at first to be honest but thought she was a great person and worth the investment. I invested, thinking the grass is greener where you water it, and she turned out great. She went through a wave of trauma soon after we got together too. She almost died from alcoholism, was diagnosed with an incurable disease that will eventually ravage her potentially, her father died, our mutual friend and her best friend died. Just before we got together her boyfriend had cheated on her with her best friend too. I took her with me anyways and I was her rock. She's' really blossomed, but I've been struggling the last few years with real life.
The straw that broke the camel's back I think might have been the thing with her brother - she carries it, and we kind of waffled on having children (fear on my part) because odds are we'll have "her brother". She told me she'd kill herself if that happened, so we started looking into the scientific 30,000 dollar methods to prevent that late last year. She was excited. End of the year/early January I told her that I wasn't sure still and I think it crushed her spirit some and all of the resentment just flooded her. She really wanted children but didn't make it extremely clear I guess. I didnt pick up on the signs and was slow to come around to the idea.
So adopt. There are no guarantees in life. I don't care if you spend $3 million. Do you both try to control everything so tightly?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
