IF she says nothing, THEN take the dogs for a walk. ELSE IF she says "I'd like to go along." THEN say "OK." and let her go.
DO NOT ask her to go, or make it as if she is expected to go. That is pressure and pursuit.
Also, patting the couch next to you IS pressure and pursuit. Do not do that. If she chooses to sit next to you, fine. If she asks for a massage and you WANT to give her one, also fine.
You need to remove all pressure and pursuit. All of that would have been fine prior to BD, but since BD it needs to cease.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
