kml - I need to listen to the message again. I'm not sure why I jotted that particular item down. But, I do not believe it had anything to do with not being good enough. I believe it has more to do with people turn to God for guidance and peace when bad things happen. It can bring you closer to God. Looking at my marriage for the good I got out of it is wise advise, though. I would go through it all again for the reward of my 2 great kids.