"Special circumstance with the letting her know I'd be going out rather than ask permission. Part of my control issues we're doing what I wanted previously and questioning what she did (I wonder why with 3 affairs) but I at least want to be courteous going forward that I'll be going out."
Prior to BD extending this courtesy would have worked. Post BD it makes you look weak and not respectable. This is a mistake LBSs make all the time. THere is a difference between 180ing on bad behaviors that are just bad. And 180ing on complaints she had prior to BD. For instance, a lot of WASs complain about the lack of affection and even sometimes sex prior to BD. However, as you can see, trying to be affectionate and initiate sex is not the right move POST BD. If you were mean, critical and overbearing prior to BD, then yes absolutely 180 on that.
See the distinction?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
