I can speak to the addiction issues. I knew growing up my mother was an addict. She went to rehab twice. Second time when I was 8. I knew she had a drug addiction. I was there for her 90 day narcotics anonymous meeting where she got her coin.
Knowing what I knew, I knew I did not want to do drugs. ( I don’t consider pot a drug, but that’s a whole other debate) but I was very careful my whole life in touching anything. I never did anything more than drink or smoke weed. You are raising your son and you are raising him well. I wouldn’t bring it up. But if it ever did come up, honesty is good and something to learn from.
I am so so sorry your son feels like he wasn’t strong enough to keep you and your ex together. That’s not his job. That’s on his dad. Your son just sounds so emotionally intelligent . You are doing such a good job raising him, I think he will be just fine.
