I fear being alone. I love her and I know she loves me, she’s just lost.
What is it about being alone that worries you? Just one specific thing. For now.
Originally Posted by bdp
I fear what this would do to our children if she left.
The children are a tough one. Believe me, having had a W that did abandon her’s - it will be alright. Lots of fear, lots to learn, lots to overcome. I guarantee this will be the most unwanted amazing journey of learning you’ve ever been on, and you will get to a place where you would not, even if you could, give it up and go back.
Please, one specific thing about your worry regarding your kids. More your point of view. I’ll share one also.
I had no idea how, or what, to do regarding bras, pads, all the girly stuff. Man oh man - do you ever grow. I feared looking like a goof, a bad Dad, a father who didn’t care, though my daughter’s eyes. I was so very wrong. Fear is completely irrational. My daughter thinks I am the best Dad ever! I made so many mistakes, and blunders. Stood up, dusted off, realized I don’t have all the answers, and talk to her. We made it through this together. (All of my kids and I did).
One example. Fear, it is no where as bad as you imagine.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
