So I’m so confused. Yesterday my wife was herself for the first time in 3 months. She called her parents and had a normal conversation. She initiated conversations with me, she was playful with the kids. She is not acting depressed. This morning she actually is talking to me. She is NOT acting like a person that plans to leave this marriage. I’m honestly so weirded out, she is acting Normal!
Besides a bad relationship talk 3 weeks ago, I have been hard core following Sandi rules. The past 3 months she has been very depressed and withdrawn. I still fear replay actions of shopping but not affair. She still seems obsessed with her youth and beauty.
I have zero expectations of this ending anytime soon but I’d like to think this is a positive. It’s like she’s trying to rebuild.
I will continue to detach until she actually decides to talk about the relationship. Even then I will not engage. I want her inner turmoil to be completely addressed before I move forward.
I fully expect her to go back and forth but this is the first time in 3 months she is acting more like herself.
I have read about LBS guiding them slowly. What should I be doing? I promise to not engage!
I know I got bombed recently (3 months). But she has been going through this for 3-4 years. We are a very close family, young kids, religious. Basically there is a lot to lose and I know she does not want to hurt the kids.
I promise I am not trying to be overly optimistic but would there be a chance that this is a mild MLC? I fully understand she could go right back but it feels so different.
