I held off for 3 years not meeting OW. Which wasn’t easy, because my daughter was a baby. I finally had to because my ex had surgery and couldn’t even get down the status to get his daughter. I was terrified to meet her because I thought I might go off on her. I played every scenario in my head. My ex couldn’t even be present .
And to my surprise, it was no freaking big deal at all. I had built up the horror so much in my head and none of that played out. She was insignificant to me. She was so whatever.
They did me very wrong too. My ex began cheating on me with her when I was pregnant with our first child, our miracle child, our IVF baby. He left when she was 6 months old. Lied about why until I found them out via a stupid greeting card a week before my first mother’s day. This is really freaking super sh!tty on both of their parts.
My point being is it’s probably going to be pretty anticlimactic and the vision in your head is probably way worse. I vowed from the day on that I met her that I would put everything aside and put my Daughter first. I never wanted to miss anything in her life because I gave power to very insignificant people.
You know I think you should go, because these are great wonderful things in your children’s lives . In YOUR life. And it’s about your son and your soon to be grandchild . The day is not about ex and OW.
My wish for you is that you go. For yourself? Because you will see it is way less than what you work it up to. And I believe you will regret not going.
