Holy cow! It's Tad...

[tadpole1025]

Thanks everyone.

Yes DnJ, my grandmother was very wise. Still think of her every day and miss her wisdom. I can't tell you how many times that I've wished I could talk to her about this MLC mess.

Jujub, I may be wrong, but I believe that my XW keeps forcing the issue because if everyone is civil with everyone, it removes some guilt. She has always been about appearances and I'm sure that she has told everyone that we just decided to divorce...it was amicable. She has always been concerned about being the bad guy and if people know that she cheated, she is....the bad guy.

Gerda, you are absolutely right. XW wants to legitimize her adultery. She also sees my brother being friends with both of his exes and her sister being friends with both of hers. I'm sure it baffles her why we are not friends. We were married longer than any of them. I think that she thinks if I meet him, accept him and am civil with both of them, it takes some burden off of her. It makes it easier for people to believe the lie. I feel that by being friendly and civil or whatever, it means that what she did was okay. It is NOT okay. It wasn't okay then and it isn't okay now....all these years later.

There is nothing natural or right about you having to attend an event with the man who stole your wife,

THANK YOU!

Diane, you are right. S26 doesn't have much to do with him at all. He actually agrees with me and gets why I have a problem with this.

I don't plan on going, but I've gone back and forth many times in the last 24 hours. I have a feeling it'll be a last-minute decision.

My chest hurts.