Tad, I would feel the same way you do. OM is not just a new partner of your ex wife. He is a man that helped to break up your family, so why does he get to go to family events? Your ex wife is out of line to request that. And I agree. Buddying up and acting like everything is okey dokey just condones and legitimizes destructive behavior. Your ex wife is super manipulative to put you in this position. I don’t look at these people as suffering and in crises (that’s projecting usually from kind people that don’t think selfishly). Just as selfish is as selfish does sort of people.
That being said, it does suck to miss out on a part of son’s life because of selfish and abusive people. It’s like letting the bullies win.
Any way you can arrive either late or early to the party. Arrange it ahead of time so that They leave as you attend ? Can you arrange it between your ex wife and you, as to not add an additional stress to your son who is planning a party and preparing for a baby?
