Originally Posted by Hallzy9
This really set me off and I calmly said: “if that’s how you feel you are already completely checked out and we should just file for D.”

This was the turning point of the R talk. It was like she hit the brakes at the word Divorce.


Anyone who reads this, Please see what happened. This is how you DB.

CALMLY stated
Validated how the spouse is feeling.
Agreeing with their POV.

Then you let them know you are OK with D. You are not afraid of it any more. You let them know this is their choice.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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