I’m not sure if you read along with me or not. D16 had a party last night for her drama production crew. It ended at 3:00 am, and I am a victim of habitual awakening, so even with only 3 hours of rest I am - at the moment - up. So, with my limited capacity, and much interest in how a fellow journeyer is traversing his current rough patch, I read and offer my view.
It starts with a question of you. What you be suggesting to me? If it was I with this situation before me.
Originally Posted by Tad
I just don't know what to do. Very mixed feelings about it all.
Very understandable.
Of course you have mixed feelings - it’s a rather mixed up scenario.
“I just don’t know what to do.” - So very true. You are emotional highjacked for the moment. It is difficult to find a reasoned solution when emotional responses are swirling about mixing you up. Letting thing settle and allowing answers to reveal themselves is advice I am sure you have heard, followed, and dispensed many times.
Feelings are seldom good to follow when it comes to making decisions, or controlling one’s actions and responses.
So, before I lose what little thought I have under the growing pressure of heavy eyelids, let your feeling flit, and follow your reason. I imagine you would tell me that as well.
I am leaning one way more than another; I do believe you should go. The positives and benefits, both immediate and potential, outweighs the negatives - for S24, his family, and most importantly - you. (((Tad)))
I hope I am not overstepping, and I support you and any decision you make. It is just there are times in one’s life where things are counterintuitive, perhaps this is one such time.
Most of us LBS will face similar “in your face” moments on our way to letting go, forgiving, and accepting. Difficult for sure.
I honestly see a better result for Tad, if you attend, rather than not.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
