One more thing..
Your boys are having kids of their own.. smile
It is a matter of time before they ask themselves how their mother could do what she has done.. the more joy they experience within their own family, the glorious you will become as their role-model! smile

She will always be mom but you will ALWAYS BE DAD, WHO GOT THROUGH ALL THIS CRAP!! smile
With Regards and MUCH RESPECT,
Diane