The cooking is definitely a 180. He has never really lived on his own so he had to cook. I assumed he'd do simple meals - steak, chips etc, but he has decided to go the full hog. Continuation of the healthy living kick he initiated in the 6-12 months before BD. I even tried to cook even bought healthy cook books when he lived here. It wasn't the spices itself. It was just evidence of a life lived without me. That's why I avoid going to the flat. I've only been there half a dozen times since he MO. Each time I see something that cuts me up. First time he had purchased paintings for the walls, then it was photos of the children in the frames that use to house photos of us, then a Christmas tree ... small things, but they are evidence of a separate life.
*** side bar - he would never leave evidence of anOW. He would not want the girls to find them. And he would not want me to find them. When I discovered he was dating - it was by accident. He was supposed to be 'away' and he thought I was at home looking after the girls. I had booked a babysitter and went to a mums night out. When I confronted him about it he said "what I am I supposed to do". That's exactly the same thing he said about the paintings on his walls.
Dilly - I am not interpreting his behavior when I say he lies about when he is at work and when he is not. He is not at work all the times he says he is (otherwise he is literally either looking after the children or he is flying a plane. There is no room in the schedule for anything else) and he often gets his stories mixed up (like today when the schedule says "drop girls off at 3 (working)" and then he said this morning that he would drop them off at 5 and then go see his dad. I am not worried about what he is or is not doing when he is not with me. But each time he puts "away" on his schedule when he is not away, he makes a conscious decision to lie to me. I could hazard a guess as to why he lies (he wants to protect his non-family 'life', he doesn't want to hurt me, he is seeing a mate of his I do not like, he wants time away from the responsibility of children to sit on his @rse and watch TV). It doesn't matter. It is a lie. And I would rather he tell me nothing then lie to me.
