Ovrrnbw. I understand why si13 is doing it. Although we all know here from experience it doesn't do any good for ourselves. Not healthy, and could potentially cause a nervous breakdown. Confirmation and soild evidence is enough. Confirm it and move on with your life. It's unimportant who the person is where they live what their phone number is. The WW is going to do what they want to do anyway. It's enough to verify and it's also enough can you use possibly in a court depending on the circumstance when filing for D. Depends on how it's obtained and whether it's violates privacy issues. Has to be in a public setting though, or you have to have legal access to records.
We all have so much attachment of our identity to our spouses is that we forget who we are and forget to self differentiate our values and beliefs. Self Differention as Steve85 calls it. The reality of it is as everyone has their own learning curves emotional time and space and realization of things to gain clarity. But it's the truth. The sooner we focus on ourselves the more into Clarity we get of who we are as individuals, and that's how we get our mojo back, and make ourselves attractive come hell or high water D or R. ,
