They are tough to read, but I have found there is always some truth in what he says. When someone 2x4s me on my thread - it always gives me pause to think.
Originally Posted by AlisonUK
I think I'm sad because I do genuinely want to care for him and help him. There's probably all kinds of covert contracts in there and manipulation and needing to be needed and co-dependency.
^^^ read this ^^^^.
Break the cycle. I know it's hard - I had to withdraw completely in order to get off the roller coaster. I don't know if it helped or hindered my sitch - we may have R'd quicker (probably not), but even if we had it would have been the same relationship as we had before. And it would have failed. At least this way, if we get another chance, then I know it will be built on mutual respect and if we don't, then my self respect (and probably his respect) will be intact.
