Holy cow! It's Tad...

[tadpole1025]

HELP.

Well, here we go. I'm sure I'll upset some with what I'm about to write....

I saw three of my sons tonight and got to talk to S24 regarding the upcoming baby shower. It turns out that the baby shower is more of a baby shower/barbecue/party. XSIL and XMIL will be there along with XW. S24 then proceeded to tell me that XW wants OM to be there as well and that he is probably going to invite him because that is what XW wants. I asked him why and he said that XW wants us all to be civil and get along. I feel that she is starting to push the issue. She needs to give up already.

Now, I know that many will feel that I should be the bigger person and go ahead and go. I also realize that eventually, with births and weddings that are sure to happen down the road, I will have to come face to face with OM. But....NOT NOW.

I am not going to be at a "party" with booze, music, XW and OM. I WILL NOT GO. I don't need the drama or the stress.

S24 said that XW just wants us to be friendly and get along. Just to be sure, I asked him again before I left who wanted OM there. He said that it was all XW. She doesn't understand why I don't want to be in the same room with them. Unreal. She left me for this fool and can't understand why I'm not happy-go-lucky and friendly towards them.

I'M DONE.

I was planning on going. I wasn't crazy about it, but I was willing to deal with XMIL, XSIL and XW. I will NOT be going if OM is there. Period.

Just to be clear, I told S24: "I'm not telling you to not invite him. Just know that if you do, it will be best if I don't go." He understood and said he'd think it over.

When my other son (S26) has events with his band, I go and support him and see XW although we don't talk. S26 says that OM doesn't go because he has made it clear that he doesn't want OM there.

XW seems to be really forcing the "getting along" and "being civil and friendly" thing a lot lately. I do believe that she thinks if it "appears" that all is fine, it keeps up her image and lifts a little of the guilt from her. I'm done with her. I want no friendship and would be perfectly happy never seeing her again. She needs to stop or we will have words...

Tad