Husband is having an affair...trying LRT

[Living]

Thanks Living.

The temp checking makes sense to me. A few weeks back my H told me I did so many nice things for him and he should be doing nice things for me, blah, blah, blah- He said something about how I take out his creamer every morning for his coffee, and he doesn't even think to do it for me (I've stopped). He went on to talk about groceries I buy for him, etc (I've stopped). This morning I walked into the kitchen and my creamer was sitting next to my mug. Something so small, and it seems silly even as I type this, but he knows what he is doing.

Yes that sounds like temp checking to me. It was nice that he left the creamer next to your mug. I think it’s ok to recognize nice things that they do. However, you should never have any expectations or think that it changes anything.

I can understand why you would have hope and allow yourself to be plan B. I'm afraid I might do the same. I keep reminding myself that I deserve better, I am no one's plan B. I also find myself thinking, "When is he going to snap out of this?" I can't believe this is the man I have known for almost 30 years!

I’ve made almost every mistake a LBS could make. Almost EVERY ONE. Lol! Listen this is tough and in the beginning we are really vulnerable. Don’t beat yourself up. You’ll make mistakes. Learn from them and continue on “your” journey.

I am so impressed with your strength. Thank you for your advice. I am taking much better care of myself. I am eating more and have gained a few pounds back. Working hard at the gym to build back the muscle. Focusing on me. You are in my thoughts as well. I have read much of your story and I hope the best for you.

Some days I’m strong and others I’m weak. This takes time. The one thing I can say is that I’m a lot stronger than I was when I first landed on this forum. Give it time, soon you’ll be saying the same thing. I look over my first post and I can see so much growth. However, I also have much more growing to do. Hugs to you dear. Keep up the good fight! You can do this! You’re strong! One day at a time!