The temp checking makes sense to me. A few weeks back my H told me I did so many nice things for him and he should be doing nice things for me, blah, blah, blah- He said something about how I take out his creamer every morning for his coffee, and he doesn't even think to do it for me (I've stopped). He went on to talk about groceries I buy for him, etc (I've stopped). This morning I walked into the kitchen and my creamer was sitting next to my mug. Something so small, and it seems silly even as I type this, but he knows what he is doing.
I can understand why you would have hope and allow yourself to be plan B. I'm afraid I might do the same. I keep reminding myself that I deserve better, I am no one's plan B. I also find myself thinking, "When is he going to snap out of this?" I can't believe this is the man I have known for almost 30 years!
I am so impressed with your strength. Thank you for your advice. I am taking much better care of myself. I am eating more and have gained a few pounds back. Working hard at the gym to build back the muscle. Focusing on me. You are in my thoughts as well. I have read much of your story and I hope the best for you.
